跟大家介绍另外一个人，一个26岁美丽动人的女生...

她，名叫Yvonne,是纽西兰创价学会妇人部的女儿。八岁是跟随双亲到纽西兰，大学读完社会学后，到影视学校继续升学，后来从事这方面的工作。

2005年的7月，发现自己患上脑癌...
医生为她立即动手术，可是在六个星期后肿瘤再度出现，于是接受一次放射治疗...那肿瘤不但生在她脑子深处，同时又具威胁性的，最后医生也表示无能为力了。面对这样的情况，Yvonne和她父母曾经非常难过，可是后来他们接受和去了解为什么会发生这么不好的事在她们身上。

Yvonne跟那里的朋友和会友随后举办一个类似戏剧的舞台剧，名字是‘Gone by Christmas’ ，是希望她尽可能的活下去，延长她被认为还有六个月就离开的人生。可是，她人生的尽头是不可避免的。

在她仅有的时间里，Yvonne在SGI的青年文化部作出相当地贡献，在她移去新地区时，也继续尽她所能出席每一次的会议。她以坚定的自信表达自己的意见，有能把词语的意思清楚的表达，也从不害怕把自己的意见说出来。她这与众不同的个性遗传自妈妈，同时让那里的会友意识到她母亲对这里的广宣流布的贡献。

Yvonne lapsed into a coma for the last three days of her life. Jessica(母亲) intuitively understood that this was to be the final stage of her daughter’s eventful life, and wrote a short message to the SGI Members. Saturday, the 10th of June my Family (Yvonne的叔叔，是这里的创价学会员，我们都认识他，Yvonne的事就是从他那得知的）visited Yvonne in the Hospice.She was in a coma, But her good eye was open and staring into the middle distance. She was also breathing strongly and steadily, in rhythm.

Yvonne Tan’s funeral at the SGINZ Culture Centre in Auckland, Saturday morning; 17 June 2006, was an event. It set a precedent, it was the first funeral service held in a Kaikan in New Zealand. It was a celebration, a festival of song and dance, with an Austin Powers theme, which Yvonne had requested, just prior to her death.

Yvonne的葬礼上，一开始是由曾经在纽西兰拍<魔戒>的Orlando Bloom（他也是创价学会员哦～）一段信息，然后有朋友穿成60年代服装跳舞，或打太鼓（类似24节令鼓），或弹奏她生前作的曲子，进入礼堂就可看见夺目的彩色字写着大大的"We Love You Yvonne！"然后播放她生前的片段...随后她父母，任何想抒发感想的都上台，场面温馨不已...


Therefore we can only understand Yvonne’s premature demise, in terms of Buddhism. Her life was a mission, which she completed and then her it was over. She was a very bright star in the filament, she illuminated the heavens with her youthful energy and vitality and then she was gone. She had everything except time.

Yvonne was never destined to suffer old age and sickness, and the meaning of her short life is clearly to encourage all of us Buddhist and non-Buddhist alike to look again at what we as mortal beings must face, each time we are born. We need to accept and appreciate sickness, old age and finally death, because this is the reality of the human existence.

Yvonne will be reborn again into this world; this is a cornerstone of our faith, our belief. We may not recognize her, but she will be reborn again into a Buddhist family. She will be reborn as a healthy individual, and sometime over the next few years you may recognize a young child, or then again it may just be your imagination playing tricks with your mind. But rest assured, Yvonne will be back, somehow, somewhere, soon.

*嗯，为何我时用华语时用英文呢?其实华语部分是我这英文白痴翻烂字典，将比较深涩的英文字眼翻译出来，让大家好读，而英文部分则是比较浅白，所以就免了翻译...很辛苦呐>.< *

While Yvonne was still around, She has requested that her Funeral service to be arrange with 'Austin Power's 'Themes.The reason She wanted everyone to be HAPPY on that day !.Within 2 days Yvonne friends and SGI NZ members decorated the centre plus practice of Austin Power's Dances.They are 'AMAZING ~ On the day when Yvonne’s casket be close, Family members, Friends have the last view of Yvonne plus private moment with Yvonne. This picture took in front of the Davis Funeral Home, Dominion Road.

下面是一个陪在Yvonne身边的好朋友写的，就是从Yvoone知道自己患上脑癌，一度意志消沉，曾想过放弃信仰，不想见到任何人，变得很愤世的她，是如何跨越过来，成长起来的。


Thoughts of Yvonne By: Luanne Gordon

Yvonne has affected my life deeply; her spirit, courage and beauty shone from her during the last year of her life, she was inspiring and continues to inspire me, I pray for her everyday and am filled with joy when I do, I have no doubt as to her immense life state.

Aidee Walker reminded me that we were both on the set of ‘Interrogation’ ( TV Drama Series-2005) when we heard that Yvonne had been diagnosed with cancer.It was a shock but to be honest I felt distanced from it.I have experienced sudden death in my own family, my mother died of an aneurysm ten years ago. I have experienced it first hand yet if someone is going through the same thing I have no idea what to do. I can't make it better or make it go away so I try to avoid it. I hardly knew Yvonne. I've come to know her though and her family and that's thanks to Aidee and Yvonne.

It's difficult to go back and recall what the events were but I do remember getting phone calls from Yvonne regularly, she would call me to just have a chat and I was always so aware of not saying the wrong thing. Everybody banded together and there were chanting sessions everywhere for her, she even phoned me during one of them at my house, the girls were all yodeling up a storm in my living room while I ended up on the deck having a yarn with Yvonne. It was difficult to understand for everybody I think how someone as young and talented and beautiful as Yvonne could be experiencing this, and how someone as courageous and wise as our dear friend Jessica could have this happen to her when for so many years she's been chanting and living her life by the wisdom of the lotus sutra.

But really some things just aren't understood and go too deep for us to see. After Yvonne’s first operation Aidee and I visited her in the hospital and I was amazed at Yvonne’s determination, she was going to get better, beat this cancer and become the actress that she wanted to be. I believed her, I believed completely in her recovery.

After some time though Yvonne didn't want to see anyone, understandably she was angry and coming to terms with her situation. Well Phew! That made it easy didn't it? I didn't even have to think about what to do as the decision was made for me, she doesn't want to see anybody. So in tune with her wishes I left her alone and with everybody else in this country and many others I prayed for her and her family.

After some time Aidee told me that Yvonne wanted to see me I freaked out a bit as I was scared I would say something to upset her. More than that though I was terrified at being brought face to face with death. And someone is dying how do you cope with that ?. How do you come to terms with that in someone so young and more importantly a young woman who chants?. Every one was chanting so hard for Yvonne to win and for the cancer to go away but it was getting worse. What do you say to that? I can't go and visit and say it's going to be ok. I can't even speak of the future as that wasn't looking like it would be much longer in this life time.

But after so long of Yvonne being angry and not wanting to see anyone and not chanting, when Aidee told me that Yvonne was willing to see us I had to see her. Aidee was determined to get Yvonne to chant, that was like her mission and mine seemed to be to do what ever Yvonne wanted. If Yvonne didn't want to chant then no drama, we chatted and talked; acting, dogs, we talked a lot about dogs. Yvonne would even ring me if she saw a dog show on TV that she thought I might like as we both wanted a dog.

And when she got Fitz I would go occasionally and walk him with her in the park.. It took Yvonne some time but one day I arrived at her house and Aidee had succeeded.Yvonne was chanting with us. I started to really look forward to seeing Yvonne. We would chant together and I would just glow in the sounds of our voices.

Yvonne chanting voice is so sweet, a beautiful contrast to Aidee and I.

Yvonne’s tumours got worse and worse but her heart became softer and softer.

I was noticing an openness and beauty that hadn't been there before. I was suddenly feeling warmth from her that I had never noticed before, and I think it's because we don't look for it. It's in all of us but we're too scared to show it, we protect it so fiercely because it's so delicate and easily broken.

Yvonne wasn't protecting hers anymore. She had melted and I was seeing Yvonne as I had never seen her. I would watch her with her mum, telling her how much she loved her, laughing together while we chanted and enjoying each others company.Here is a young woman dying and she's sitting there laughing and playing with her mother.

I went home one night after a visit. I was outside on my deck smoking a cigarette and I really tried to imagine how it must feel to know you're dying and what could possibly make that ok. What could be the one thing that could give me peace and stop me being afraid. And it was really clear love. What fear can penetrate a life filled with compassion and heart and what a cause to take into your next life. Compassion for everything and everyone, when your life is filled with this everything is so much clearer and that's what we're all moving towards..surely?

Without even being aware my heart had completely opened to Yvonne and I really feel she opened her heart to me, I still had fears though; would I say the wrong thing, maybe now is a bad time? that kind of thing, I just had to trust that my being there was enough and it became natural, we trusted each other. I never knew Yvonne before she developed cancer and through this she has really opened my eyes to my life and my family. How important it is to accept and appreciate every person. how it's our responsibility to connect with our hearts to everyone.

I watch Yvonne and Jessica and Jeffrey and I see how close their family bonds are. I'm starting to see karma from a different perspective, if we choose the family we're born into then we're choosing to confront and transform those relationships/that karma. So it would make sense to me that our family relationships are what inform all our relationships. If I can transform my family relationships and learn to accept love and appreciate every family member and develop honest and strong bonds with all them then wouldn't that reflect also in my relationships outside of my family? Can I form bonds like I have with Yvonne with everyone, can I see everybody's Buddha nature as clearly as I see Yvonne’s? Can I trust myself and other people enough? can I even see my own Buddha nature? Well I’m certainly putting it in motion and working on it.

I know that Yvonne won in her life, and winning is not what I thought it was. winning is not suddenly all the cancer disappearing and her jumping up and getting better and it all go away. Winning is how we go. winning is a very personal thing for her life. Yvonne held on for so much longer than any doctor predicted, she battled and fought to the end and what amazed me the most was that she continued to laugh till the end and that will be my enduring memory.

Yvonne passed away in peace, knowing she was loved and treasured and having spent the last months of her life giving her love and heart to others, she inspired so many people, people who never met her yet heard her story were moved to make changes in their lives for the better. I'm a better person for having been through this with Yvonne.

I'm a stronger person more confident and compassionate. I have Yvonne with me everyday now, I think of her and smile and am filled with joy. I feel like one of the lucky ones, thank you Yvonne for sharing this part of your life with me and embracing me and telling me you love me and teaching me so much.I can truly say I’m a little less frightened of death after seeing yours and your dignity, beauty, peace and HUMOUR through it all.

I love you my friend. xxxx
Luanne Gordon


一个高贵纯洁的灵魂，不会因为离开而消失，而是不停的感动着活着的我们。我们都知道，她，会一直在我们的心里...